tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5145795456493171851.post6504640125171941837..comments2023-07-27T01:55:29.640-07:00Comments on PARENTING POST TRAUMA: Shaming children is shameful isn't it?janeevansparentinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10921909653442607199noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5145795456493171851.post-53931005239572617722012-06-24T10:49:58.230-07:002012-06-24T10:49:58.230-07:00Thanks Collette,that's good to hear as I know ...Thanks Collette,that's good to hear as I know there is so much overlap between trauma in childhood and substance mis-use and dependency. My parenting is all about coming alongside of children rather than controlling from above or going head to head!janeevansparentinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10921909653442607199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5145795456493171851.post-87185820628543114302012-06-23T10:43:01.849-07:002012-06-23T10:43:01.849-07:00This is really interesting as a couple of weeks ag...This is really interesting as a couple of weeks ago I was at a seminar delivered by William Miller and Stephen Rollnick the 'fathers' of Motivational Interviewing and they talked about how the addictions field historically has used shame to change people's substance use. Miller said that there is no psychological theory or evidence to support the idea that shame is a catalyst for behavioural change. Motivational Interviewing is very much about coming alongside and empathising with the person and helping them weigh up the costs and benefits of the decisions they make, rather than dictating, lecturing, shaming etc. Sounds like a lot of agreement with your analysis here Jane. Great post.Collette Wintershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17950903143742718179noreply@blogger.com